Want to go somewhere else…because
this place is full of selfish and mean people!
Despite of all the love we
receive from our surroundings, as a child, it is very difficult to understand
why our parents scold us so often, why our elder siblings tease us for silly
things and why sometimes even ideal teachers adapt angry tone towards us. That
is the time we just feel like doing whatever makes us feel happy, without any
fear, without any boundaries and without any hesitation. And if anyone tries to
interrupt that feeling, a child tends to think…”Nobody understands me, I want
to run away somewhere”…
I used to feel the same when I
was a child. As I grew and started my college, I thought I am grown up enough
to be felt intimidated by anyone! But soon the ragging session started where
all the juniors and freshers were treated like the sub-ordinates of their
seniors….
Since I was used-to to the teasing’s
of my elder siblings, I survived! Also I knew that complaining about your
siblings to the parents is of no use and hence never complained about the
seniors to my teachers and wardens; and so, I survived! Slowly I became a bit
stronger emotionally, but somehow a thought inculcated in my mind that ‘teasing’
is a general habit of people living in this area…be it your home, your school,
college, hostel or even the roads where any stranger can come and tease you
like a thing!
I thought this whole area is
sick…I must go out somewhere else…
Finally I got a job and luckily
was moved to another area…
“Ah! This place should be good”,
I thought! And with a happy heart begun my journey from home to office—in the
office – and from office to home every day!
Those were the days when I witnessed
how sick, dirty and filthy a person can behave when you are stuck in an over-crowded
public bus. I also observed how a simple looking person can suddenly transform
into a complex, self-centered and political one, when it comes to progress
their career through unfair means! I tried to ignore all those unpleasant
things, people and atmosphere and continued working there for a few years! Those
were the years I understood why seniors rag you in the college…just to make you
strong enough to tolerate the outside world and its dirt!
By that time I was married and
had a new born baby in my hands. Like all the parents I pledged and decided to
give the world’s best things to my child. Husband got a promotion and we moved
to another state.
Happy to be shifted in a new
area, I thought it must be a different place, with people of good mentality!
Soon I learnt how intolerant the
people were in that state. The local people there believed that people from
different states have come to make their state over-crowded and polluted! I witnessed the partiality for locals while
applying for jobs and observed the biased nature of people while working in the
office with majority of locals. Throughout my stay in that state, I wondered
how and why do people behave so differently even if they belong to the same
country! I also thanked the people I met in my previous jobs because of whom I
had become immuned enough to over-come such strange feelings.
But the feeling of going away
really far has not died yet and I asked my husband to take me to a different
country altogether!
Here we were in a different
world, differently looking people, speaking different language, wearing
different clothes and even eating different cuisines. This country had a
different smell!
I was flattered with the warm
smile I received from people here in this country. I thought people in this
place are more welcoming to others, unlike the people of the place where I have
come from.
But as my stay continued, all such
good thoughts began to wash off slowly. It began with me getting duped by a
maid agency here in this new country and then many similar incidences of duping
in one way or other lined up in series; just to reveal the real rudeness behind
the smiles of those pretty looking faces.
I finally understood that this is
not the place I wanted to run away for and these are not the people with whom I
can even argue in my own way!
I finally understood that similar
type of people live in every area. Wherever we go, they might trouble us, tease
us, disdain us and even insult us. We need to ignore those things at that
moment so as to survive; thereafter we need to apply those experiences to persevere
even better in the worst condition, which we might face later in our lives!
Different stages of our lives give us different messages and teach us how to
deal better next time! With this thought, I have now decided to not to feel
like running away, rather stay there, fight the situation, get new lessons,
enjoy and move on to the next destination to apply your newly learned
experiences into the newly found situations J…
