My Kind of Hero...

Often we talk about the efforts a woman does in her life, the relationship she shares with her husband, managing with her children and taking care of her whole family, but rarely we discuss the hardships faced by a man in calming his wife’s mood swings, making out time to play with his kids and meeting the demands of his family members! A man, who we expect to be available at any call and at any point of time, happily takes the reward of a supporting actor in his family’s life, just because the woman of his family grumpily takes away the award of best actress…..all the time!

Some of the luckiest females get that type of husband and how can I not mention here that I stand right on the top of that list!

It’s been a decade now since the time I know him and we have together celebrated the four wonderful years of parenthood also. Throughout these years, he has given me numerous reason to fall in love with him again… and all over again…

Scientifically I don’t know why, but I think women feel more depressed and also express that depression every now and then, so easily as compared to their male counterparts! There are several stages in a women’s life when they feel significantly depressed, like pre-pregnancy depression, pregnancy-depression, post-pregnancy-depression and depression throughout their life, sometimes for several reasons and sometimes for no reasons… Maybe we consider that men do not feel depressed at all, because they do not undergo those biological changes which women go through in their lives and maybe that is the reason we use them as our anti-depressants…sometimes or all the times!

Whenever I feel miserable, I look for him…. find some reason to argue on…maybe something from the long lost past… blame him for not being responsible for something at some point of time… then I cry because his voice turns loud as he tries to defend himself which is obvious…I make him feel as miserable as I was feeling before I started this conversation, and then finally I tell him the actual reason of me feeling depressed at this point of time! He then hugs me and tell some magical words which make the feeling of ‘sadness’ move out and the feeling of ‘being loved’ move in my heart…………. And I feel happy back.

I have become an expert in using this ‘therapy’ on myself for last so many years…but never cared if this therapy is leaving any side effects on my husband’s feelings or not!

My all-time favorite reasons of arguments are – me working more inside the house as compared to him, taking care of children more number of time as he does, managing with his family better than he does…. but during all those arguments, I continually forget to mention that he is the one who is supplying me with the energy, happiness and reasons for being able to do all this!

There were days when I had to live separately from him for couple of years. I blamed him for being very happy without me and his little daughter. I behaved like an obsessed parent those days because was not able to trust on anything and anybody that could do any harm to my child…

The difficult days got over quickly and we shifted to a new country! “In my own country I was not trusting on people, how could I trust on people here in this new place” …that was the fear growing in my mind!

But I was forgetting that she is now with her dad. He started taking her to the places ‘without holding her hands’, made her do slide ‘without trying to catch her at the bottom’, took away her fear of water by ‘letting her go in the swimming pool by herself’ made her eat spices despite of her shedding tears after that! I now realized the importance of ‘dad’ in a child’s life! He might not be the person who bored the child in his belly, but he surely is the person who made every moment safe and special when the child was in my tummy! He might not hold the hand when she is running far, but his eyes are surely fixed on her to notice her every movement…he is the one who made me understand that “some time we need to take some risks in our lives and trust on the destiny rather than getting worried”.

He made me trust on him more than I trust on myself!

He understands when I expect more of his time on weekends…so he does not sleep on weekends, brings gifts back home from office, buy new trendy things for us, takes us on vacations every now and then and the best of all…always lets me eat whatever I want! He loves his family and so has made me and my daughter fall in love with the whole family, he understands what does each family member need to be happy and so has made me understand the needs of his family members…

But I never forget to act as the winner and taking the credit of being so thoughtful, caring and loving for everyone…because I believe that I am the best he is just supporting one!